This Simple Trick Makes Divorce For Women Easier
This Simple Trick Makes Divorce Easy For Women
It has been proven through the lives of many women that if you let people walk all over you, they will gladly do so. Why? It’s not because they are narcissists or toxic people, but rather because we train people how to treat us. Healthy boundaries became an important instrument that will help you change that. A simple trick that makes divorce easy for women.
Distract Against the Pain of Divorce
When you’re going through a divorce, there is a deep need to be needed or wanted. It’s a time where a temptation to break your relationship boundaries becomes egregiously strong. Because the emotional cost of divorce is unbearable, you might be seeking all possible ways to distract yourself from feeling the pain.
The easiest way you achieve this is by extending yourself beyond limits. You forget about these strategies that you used to set healthy boundaries. The moment someone asks you to do something you don’t have the time, energy or inclination to do is fraught with vulnerability.
Decision between Yes or No
“Yes!” often comes out as easy as the bullet through the air. Because you can’t and don’t want to even entertain a possibility of being rejected or abandoned by another person in your life if you say “No!”.
But “YES” comes at a price: I can’t tell you how many times I have said “Sure!” only to find myself in a free fall. I remember after committing myself to something I couldn’t do. I would sit and try to come up with a worthy lie or justification of why I wouldn’t be able to raise up to the promise. Afterwards, I would spend hours, or even months feeling angry and resentful.
Going Through a Divorce is Tough
Divorce for women is hard. You are not only trying to navigate through the pain of filing for divorce and finding yourself again, but you’re also responsible for fulfilling your other roles. You feel pressured to show up to the same standard as you had done before. But you can’t! And you refuse to accept it.
It manifests through you not wanting to face and feel what you are feeling. Instead, you are listening to the inner shame gremlins who keeps telling you: “Who do you think you are?” “You have failed as a wife, as a woman… do you also want to fail as a career woman, daughter, mother…”
Stop Making Your Love Life a Thriller
Only through setting and owning your boundaries you will be able to feel enough and to say “Enough!” And that will also be true later in your life. Maybe, you will want to stop attracting narcissists or wrong men who you know aren’t good for you. You may even want to stop seeking validation outside or stuffing your divorce pain with food and luxury brand. You can even stop making your love life a thriller. It is all because you know that time is better spent on dating yourself or building the real love guilt-free.
No matter what you want or will want to stop doing, there’s a genius two-word fix that can fool-proof your chances of success by up to 10X.
(Yes, up to 10 times!)
This “well-known” yet constantly neglected tip is our focus on today’s Relationship Realities. It’s a must watch if you want to supercharge your ability to resist temptation and no longer feel the pain.
Once you’ve had a chance to watch today’s episode, join us in the comments below.
I’d love to know…
What’s one thing you do that — if you’re SUPER honest — is derailing your happiness or love life right now?
Then use today’s technique to increase your chances of success by up to 10X. Don’t skip this one. It’s a fast and smart method to help you make positive change.
Once you’ve had a chance to read, I’d love to know: how you take care of yourself during this painful life transition?
No matter what you’re facing right now, there is an adventurous journey ahead. You can use your heart, courage, and dedication to find a way or make a way. It all comes to how bad you want to make it happen.
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