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7 Ways To Great Sex & Orgasms Without Intercourse

7 Ways To Great Sex & Orgasms Without Intercourse

Intimacy and sex are at their best when they’re taken slowly. But sometimes sexual performance anxiety, distracted mind, or biology get on your way. In sex therapy, I’ve worked with a lot of over-achievers from Wall Street and powerful women. What they all share is frustration that arises when sex doesn’t go the way they’d planned it. It can be a loss of erection for men or difficulty with arousal or orgasms for women, for instance.

What do you do and how do you improve intimate moments, if they’re not immediate? How do you pleasure a woman without intercourse? Here are my top 7 sex therapy go-to strategies to make the best out of intimacy even when something doesn’t go the way you’d planned it.

1. Erotic Basics

Discover new ways to pleasure yourself or your partner to allow excitement to build and flow through out your body. Taking the time to caress and make love to the whole body is one of the most bulletproof ways of intensifying sexual pleasure and removing an expectation that intercourse must happen instantaneously.

2. Touch Unexpected Areas

The best way you can awaken each other’s body to pleasure, especially after a crazy busy day full of meetings, is to kiss, touch, and stroke unexpected areas. The crooks of the arms, the ears, the area of the back, behind the knees, and ankles. Anything goes. Move your minds away from boring intercourse. It’s in the past. The only reason you think that intercourse is the only way to have sex is that you weren’t educated on sexual pleasure that comes in all shapes and forms.

3. Seductive Environment

With crazy schedules and a lot on your mind, it’s hard to shift gears into intimacy. The last thing you want is to make these 7 mistakes that destroy your sex life. Make sure your environment isn’t your distraction. Turn off your phone. Lock the door, so your kids don’t walk in on you. Dim lights. Light candles. Put soft music on.


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4. Breathe and Relax

When you focus on intercourse to be the key to pleasure, there’s often a sense of urgency during intimacy that puts more pressure on you. If something doesn’t go the way you’d planned it, you get upset and frustrated. Stop this self-sabotage.

Instead, breathing and relaxing will allow the energy to build and become a reservoir you can dip into when and how you choose to become sexually engaged or enjoy orgasms.

5. Create Anticipation Game

Longing is as seductive as actually getting intimate. Make sure you anticipate closeness. The longer the feeling of sheer anticipation builds and lingers, the less likely you’re to focus on performance and more on experience. Flirting or teasing are the powerful tools that build up sexual desire.

6. Magic Fingers

Our body has a brain on its own. More often than not it has its own agenda. You can’t control it. Developing erotic skills through touch can bring variety into intimacy, especially when something doesn’t go as planned.

Skilled hand and fingers can be especially adept at intensifying sexual pleasure or be a sexual experience on its own without ever having to resort to intercourse.


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6. GPS Instructions

I have to mention this one because it comes up in sex therapy all the time. During lovemaking, some of us have a tendency to give instructions to our partner. And it wouldn’t be a problem if it came out in a sexy and appreciative way that can make a moment hotter and juicier.

You’re ruining it!

Unfortunately, more often than not GPS-like instructions become a distraction. It forces your partner to self-doubt. The best way to share your sexual turn-ons and uniqueness of your male or female sexual desire is later. Maybe over a cup of coffee.

I know it’s not easy to have a sex talk. But it’s all your old conditioning. As an adult, you get to choose how to show up in your sex life.

7. Shot of Expertise

All it takes is consistent practice or sex therapy to save your time and get the results faster than you can achieve on your own. Alternatively, if you’re too shy at this moment, you can explore my Supreme Lover Course that will be a powerful shot of expertise to get you started!



How to get the love you want in your life?

What’s your fear behind sexual performance? Let me know what’s stopping you from stepping away from intercourse based sex?

Sexual problems are common. Don’t feel embarrassed to share or seek help. Please share what’s going on for you during this time.

No matter what you’re facing right now, you can change your life. There’re certain things in life you just have to work out in sex therapy. It doesn’t mean you’re weak or broken. It means you’re smart enough to save yourself from many failures that come with trying to figure it out all on your own.

Always remember to charge yourself with individual counseling and sex therapy. I help men and woman find joy, love, and respect in their love lives.

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